Online dating insecurity

At least, as far as one can tell from Tinder: He was a coffee-loving “urban adventurer” from the Midwest and an entrepreneur who walked dogs on the side. So when Nathan (not his real name) matched with Alexandra Tweten, a 28-year-old woman living in Los Angeles, she was eager to start chatting. “It could have been my exact profile,” says Tweten.

In his free time, he could be found digging through all the right vinyl genres: indie rock, shoegaze, electronic, and new age.

In all my years of dating men, if there’s one thing that’s stuck out like a sore thumb in a man, it’s his insecurity.

At least in all the men I’ve dated, more than half of them were insecure. What’s more surprising is that I’m not the only one who’s had to deal with insecure men.

Now to why I’m writing: I have been dating my good friend for six months now, things with him are going really well.

Not only do we have many similar interests but we are also similar in personalities and wave length.

She signed up for JDate, an online dating site for Jewish singles.

“It’s a product of the growing normalcy of using social media apps,” says Moira Weigel, author of “Labor of Love: The Invention of Online Dating” (Farrar, Straus & Giroux, 2016).

“These are all interests of mine as well.”Surely, the universe was somehow trolling her. And refreshingly, he had date ideas that extended beyond the default meet-up at a bar. He apologized, explaining that he had meant to call somebody else. She brushed it off, joking that, for a moment, she thought he might have been “a crazy person.” Apparently offended, he started berating her even more furiously.

Perhaps they could go for a nighttime drive around Beverly Hills, or make cocktails and listen to records. “I was trying to explain something and you cut me off! She hung up and dodged several more calls and texts before finally humoring him with a few minutes of her attention. So you can see why I’m pretty tense.” He told Tweten that she had insulted him earlier and asked for an apology.

Almost every woman I know has experienced her share of insecure men.

The funniest part of all this is that most women don’t even know they’re actually in a relationship with an insecure man!