For a lot of reasons, including the whole “repeating the same mistakes” idiom, I’m ruling out dating in the rooms for now.
In other words, introverts are people who don't like conversation, keep to themselves and only feel comfortable in solitude.I didn’t do it then, but I might get it now, and not for lack of desire. The scenario that most terrifies me goes something like this: I meet a man I like. Of course, nobody can or should tell everything on the first date. It might happen when he picks up the wine list and asks if I’d like to try a merlot. He has sympathetic eyebrows and says in a voice raised half an octave, “Oh. I’m really proud of you.” Which is what nice people say. Because now that you know, vaguely, that I used to do drugs—that stereotypically dark, gritty, felonious lifestyle—speak to me as if I’m a good little girl. In my life, there are two major categories of potential suitors: people “in the rooms”— recovering addicts at the meetings—or “normies”—those strange creatures who can drink just one beer, maybe even hit one joint every now and again, normal people. Pros: mutual understanding, shared experience, easy to meet. But my recovery is a really big part of my life, and I’m consciously withholding that information for strategic reasons: in terms of the proverbial “baggage,” the story that winds up with me in rehab by the time I’m 21 is a U-Haul load. Instead of saying, “No, thanks,” which is all I need to say, I say, “I can’t. And we think online dating, even more so than offline dating, is about "putting yourself out there." So it goes without saying that introverts would find online dating as repelling as, say, an afternoon without a book. Introverts represent a varied group of people — some are shy, implying discomfort in social situations, while others enjoy spending time in groups of people.(They're not all bookworms.) Introverts and extroverts are merely social in different ways. D., an internationally recognized dating expert, there are several advantages to online dating for introverts.