Sam looks terrified behind his wire-rimmed glasses.
Clutching the strap of his bag under the table as if it’s the leash of an unruly dog, he displays an impressive commitment to deflection—responding to Irenstein’s personal questions by spouting perplexing theories, including, “A major aspect of the notion of getting better at dating is not about increasing the total numbers, but increasing the yield of the process.” ).
Some 9 to 12 percent of men in Manhattan are gay, according to Gary Gates, a demographics expert at UCLA’s Williams Institute.
Other cities especially brutal for single women are Houston; Providence, RI; and Raleigh, NC.
Better options include Silicon Valley, San Francisco, San Diego and Columbus, Ohio.
Based on his research, here are eight reasons why women can’t find a man — and strategies for increasing their odds. “Because women have been graduating from college in 30-plus percent greater numbers than men for years, there are now four women for every three men nationally in the marriage-age, college-educated dating market,” Birger says.
“We saw a fervor for something just for them,” says Joshua Meyers, CEO of People Media, the targeted- dating subsidiary of IAC.
In April, Stitch.net, a Tinder-like dating app for the over-50 set, launched, and it’s set to debut a local New York section next month.
As the baby boomer population ages, more and more dating Web sites are focusing on retirees looking for love, and no wonder: About 30 percent of baby boomers are single.
IAC, which owns sites like and Chemistry.com, started in 2011 for 50-and-over singles looking to date.