And please note: For those of you already in a relationship, these warnings still apply.
They are a diagnostic tool for deciding whether your marriage needs a fix (or an exit strategy).
Being honest with yourself doesn’t mean that a relationship won’t work out—it’s usually the only reason why it works out in the first place.
But if we ignore the warning signs that point to our new relationship being a complete train wreck, we’re not doing anyone any favors.
“Men mess up and then we feel badly about it.” One of my best friends in graduate school used to say this.
As we swapped stories, too often this was a conclusion we came down to. Another said he was too good for the girl he was dating. Women wishing it was a small drawback and not an indication of something bigger.
First thing: Consider the source for the lack of lust. Resentments, and guilt can all impact the quantity and quality of your nooky.It can even feel like too much work starting over with someone new.But deep down you may have a nagging feeling that something just isn’t right.That other person is often everything we dreamed of—smart, funny, attractive, the whole works. What is the point of entering into a relationship if you’re going to start finding faults with it straight away?That might be true but we could prevent a lot of heartbreak—for ourselves and the other person involved—if we could only critically assess the situation at the beginning.